The days of celebrating a birthday by having a few friends over with pizza and cake seem to be long gone. These days it seems like children’s birthday parties are all about being “insta-worthy.” After falling flat on my face while planning Mal’s first birthday, I learned these lessons the hard way. So to save y’all some money and stress, I’m going to share 3 party planning mistakes to avoid when planning a child’s birthday.
3 Party Planning Mistakes To Avoid
1) Stressing about the unknown
For all my worry warts out there, let’s remember the serenity prayer. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL! There are going to be things that pop up last minute and that’s okay. Take a deep breath, remember the serenity prayer, and boss it out.
2) Going above your means
It’s easy to get caught up in trying to “Keep up with the Joneses” (more like the Kardashians these days but you know..) but you just have to remind yourself that the amount of money you spend on your child is NOT reflection of the love you have for them. The little day in and day out moments are the ones your little will remember you for. How you always have their towel ready after a bath and know which book to pick depending on their mood (AND you better not be wrong!) For the mama’s with older children, I KNOW you can think of a time you went completely overboard and as soon as a year later your little doesn’t even remember the details of the event. They are far less worried about how much something cost and much more about the experience they’re SHARING with you. This leads me to my last point and something I struggle with every damn year.
3) Spending too much time playing “host”
Yes, it is important to ensure everyone at the party is happy and having a good time, I mean it is a party right? But playing the doting host can be taken overboard real quick and will only add unnecessary stress for you and take away from the overall experience of the party. Invite people that truly care about your little, not people you feel the need to impress and this will eliminate a HUGE part of this. For Mal’s first and second birthday, I invited everybody and their mama..that was a mistake. I had to run around like a chicken with my head cut off the whole time and only caught glimpses of the fun Mal was having. This year I only invited a few of our closest friends and family and what a difference it made! I can not even verbalize how much that changed the experience for both of us. I was able to go through obstacle courses with the kids, catch all the smiles, and overall enjoy the party WITH my guests.
Regardless of what route you decide to take when it comes to your little’s birthday just remember to be present in the moment and relish in the fact you survived one more year of motherhood.