3 Simple Tips For Happiness
Frankly, some parts of my life have been a complete sh*t show. It’s hard to see the upside when it feels like literally every aspect of your world is crumbling right before your eyes. Sometimes you have to find joy at a basic level, i.e..breathing? I won’t promise every day will be sunshine and rainbows but if you keep reading for 3 simple tips for happiness, you’ll find peace amidst any storm. If you want to skip all the sappy stuff, scroll down to my cliff notes at the bottom!
3 Simple Tips For Happiness (Let That Sh*t Go)
1) DON’T SETTLE – find your passion + pursue it
Although entrepreneurship is all the rage right now, far more people are still stuck in the rat race rather. As a result, kids grow up thinking maturity is finding a job to cover the bills with enough left over to avoid the ramen noodle diet. So while yes, you need money to live a life on the grid, it shouldn’t consume your whole being. It’s extremely problematic that we’re teaching our future generations to commit to something WITHOUT any regard to their actual happiness. Bear with me, I’m about to nerd out for a second.
Studies have shown that there are emotional, mental, and physical affects due to not being satisfied with your job. If you think about it, how could there not be? On average people spend 40-50+ hours/week at work, so if your mindset is negative in this space that’s obviously going to overflow into other areas of your life. Your family, marriage, self-confidence and friendships, among many other things can/will be affected. The problem is that people are more comfortable with being dissatisfied than being uncomfortable. So rather than making a change, we stay in a draining situation. LET THAT SINK IN.
I think we can all agree that the only way you grow is by doing things you’ve never done though, so what do you do? Ask yourself – what makes me happiest? What sets my heart on fire and makes me want to get out there and make magic? Once you have found this, GO FOR IT. With laser focus go for what is yours. Forget the fear, forget the what-ifs, forget being uncomfortable with discomfort. You are worth a life that is overflowing in all areas, though you have to work for it, your happy bucket will thank you 😊
2) FORGIVE – yourself + others
In an ideal world everyone who ever committed a wrong doing against you would plead for an apology after acknowledging their role in the situation. Real life? Rarely does this happen. Fact is, a good portion of the people who are ugly towards you are going to be people who you will never see again. (road rage anyone?) The rest may be people you see every day, however, many of these people are still not going to outright ask you for forgiveness. When it comes to carrying the BURDEN of resentment and malice towards someone, it falls solely on the shoulders on the holder. Meaning, only YOU are effected by your lack of forgiveness, not the person who hurt you.
So you have three (for arguments sake) options to choose from:
- Approach the person and inform them they owe you an apology (but then what?)
- Don’t forgive the person until they ask, meanwhile resenting them (ain’t nobody got time for this.)
- Forgive the person with or without a respectful conversation (YES!)
The hardest part of of forgiveness is the immense amount of maturity and accountability it takes. You may never get to tell that person what they said that ruined your whole day. You may never get to express the way your father’s immaturity broke you at a young age, and you may never get to express the jealousy for the person who got the last mint chocolate chip Halo Top.. but you will have peace and that makes it all worth it. PS – Don’t forget to forgive YOURSELF!
After you get into the habit of living in grace it becomes instinct and soon the things that once bothered you won’t even get a second thought, and this leads me to my last happy bucket tip..
3) DON’T sweat the small stuff
Whatever makes you happy AND doesn’t backtrack your progress, do it. Missing a workout to go shopping with friends? DO IT. Eating pasta with your family for Sunday dinner? DO IT. Need to take a mental health day from work? DO IT. None of these things are going to break your overall progress. I’ve said it a million times and I will say it a million more, you can not pour from an empty cup. It is imperative that you do what makes you happy so that happiness can ultimately spread to those you meet through your actions and words. WAY too often we allow the most minuscule things to completely rob us of the joy we once felt, even seconds before.
How many times have you looked at a situation in hindsight and wished your reaction to it had been different or that you didn’t let it affect you so much? I do it all the time. I wish I wouldn’t have cursed at the person who cut me off or taken out my bad day out on the guy whose moving slow at the grocery store. We have to take control over our actions and thoughts and make the CHOICE to let only the good things stay.
You are a good person, good things have happened and will continue to happen to you. Stop letting small things make you lose all hope in yourself or your future.
My favorite reminder of this a very popular prayer by R. Neibuhr- “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.”
CLIFF NOTES – 3 Simple Tips For Happiness
- Pursue your passion(s)
- Be forgiving of yourself and others
Ultimately, happiness is a choice and is free to everyone. It’s up to us to choose to see the best of the world even when our own seems to be crumbling down. The perspectives we hold and how we bide our time matters, so take control of yours now! Here are 2 other post to help fill your happy bucket – for my mamas and for life period.
Love + Happiness,
Jesus, I pray that you fill our happy buckets to overflowing amounts, I ask that you encourage and strengthen the hearts of those that are chained by fear. Let them live in the freedom that is You, Jesus. Father, I speak life, prosperity, happiness, health, and love over us all. In Jesus name, Amen.