Mom guilt plagues first time and experienced moms alike. Use these 5 ways to combat mom guilt to continue to flourish as a mom AND individual.
5 Ways To Combat Mom Guilt
First, we’re going to define mom guilt. You know when you feel bad for locking yourself in your closet or going to brunch with the girls? For using the TV as a baby sitter so you can shower or nap in peace? For using the wrong brand of diapers after a chat with your in-law? Yeah, that overwhelming feeling of guilt because you’ve somehow wronged your child and failed motherhood completely? That my friends, is, mom guilt. Second, let’s acknowledge that there is NO perfect mother. Regardless of what you think, feel, or see, perfection does not exist. Lastly, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Mom guilt is VERY normal but in my opinion, it’s a hindrance and needs to be combated. Whatever you need to do to realize you are a bad ass mama whose killing it, do it. Keep reading to learn 5 ways to combat mom guilt that have helped me personally.
5 Ways To Combat Mom Guilt
TRUST that you are doing the best you can and you won’t break your kid by having mimosas with your girls. Be confident in the fact that you’re providing, loving, guiding your child consistently on a VERY long journey full of speed bumps, learning curves, and straight up face palm moments. Don’t worry mama, God’s got you.
STAY connected – it’s inevitable, you are going to miss things while taking time to yourself. Focus on being present and spending QUALITY, personal time with your little(s) when you do have the opportunity. Unplug and connect with your children on a consistent basis so when you want to go out with the girls one Saturday, you can stop SCRESSING girl. Go dance your heels off and enjoy yourself.
STOP comparing yourself to other people. Every mother and child are different, so what works for some isn’t going to necessarily work for you and your little(s). If you want to be crunchy and have cloth diapers swimming up to your eyes, go for it. If you want to feed your kids happy meals every day, go for it mama! DO YOU and stop worrying about what people are going to think.
REALIZE that you’re the BEST mama for your little(s). God made them especially for YOU because He knew you were the one for the job. Be confident in the love, support, and lessons they receive from you.
PRAY for discernment and confidence in yourself as a mother. Because when you have that God-given peace, nobody can tell you a damn thing!
As a mom, we’re shamed for so many different things by so many different people, it’s only natural that we experience self doubt as a byproduct. But, as I’ve said before in my self care for mama bear’s post, you HAVE to fill your own cup first or you will not have anything left over to pour out for anyone else. Basically, motherhood is hard, SH*T HAPPENS and only YOU can decide if you’re going to let it break you or motivate you. Be kind to yourselves babes.