5 ways to combat mom guilt
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5 Ways To Combat Mom Guilt

Mom guilt plagues first time and experienced moms alike. Use these 5 ways to combat mom guilt to continue to flourish as a mom AND individual.

 

5 Ways To Combat Mom Guilt 

 

First, we’re going to define mom guilt. You know when you feel bad for locking yourself in your closet or going to brunch with the girls? For using the TV as a baby sitter so you can shower or nap in peace? For using the wrong brand of diapers after a chat with your in-law? Yeah, that overwhelming feeling of guilt because you’ve somehow wronged your child and failed motherhood completely? That my friends, is, mom guilt. Second, let’s acknowledge that there is NO perfect mother. Regardless of what you think, feel, or see, perfection does not exist. Lastly, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Mom guilt is VERY normal but in my opinion, it’s a hindrance and needs to be combated. Whatever you need to do to realize you are a bad ass mama whose killing it, do it. Keep reading to learn 5 ways to combat mom guilt that have helped me personally.

 5 Ways To Combat Mom Guilt 

 

TRUST that you are doing the best you can and you won’t break your kid by having mimosas with your girls. Be confident in the fact that you’re providing, loving, guiding your child consistently on a VERY long journey full of speed bumps, learning curves, and straight up face palm moments. Don’t worry mama, God’s got you.

STAY connected – it’s inevitable, you are going to miss things while taking time to yourself. Focus on being present and spending QUALITY, personal time with your little(s) when you do have the opportunity. Unplug and connect with your children on a consistent basis so when you want to go out with the girls one Saturday, you can stop SCRESSING girl. Go dance your heels off and enjoy yourself.

STOP comparing yourself to other people. Every mother and child are different, so what works for some isn’t going to necessarily work for you and your little(s). If you want to be crunchy and have cloth diapers swimming up to your eyes, go for it. If you want to feed your kids happy meals every day, go for it mama! DO YOU and stop worrying about what people are going to think.

REALIZE that you’re the BEST mama for your little(s). God made them especially for YOU because He knew you were the one for the job. Be confident in the love, support, and lessons they receive from you.

PRAY for discernment and confidence in yourself as a mother. Because when you have that God-given peace, nobody can tell you a damn thing!

 

As a mom, we’re shamed for so many different things by so many different people, it’s only natural that we experience self doubt as a byproduct. But, as I’ve said before in my self care for mama bear’s post, you HAVE to fill your own cup first or you will not have anything left over to pour out for anyone else. Basically, motherhood is hard, SH*T HAPPENS and only YOU can decide if you’re going to let it break you or motivate you. Be kind to yourselves babes.

 

Good vibes, 

Jamie 

 

 

 

5 ways to combat mom guilt

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11 Comments

  • Reply
    Nikki Boether
    September 10, 2018 at 12:03 pm

    Fully agree mama. Prayer is everything and gets us through momming!!

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    Christina
    September 10, 2018 at 1:17 pm

    Such good advice! I definitely need to remember to stay connected! Often times, my mind is so distracted thinking about everything that needs to get done, or simply things I would like to do, that I’m not fully engaged with my daughter. It only makes sense that if I’m genuinely connected and giving my undivided attention, I’ll feel less guilt about enjoying other things or completing tasks without her. 🙂

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      stilljamieblog
      September 11, 2018 at 3:51 pm

      Absolutely! You don’t feel like you’ve missed out as much. Thank you for commenting 🙂

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    Davianna @ mompursuit
    September 10, 2018 at 5:03 pm

    I have mom guilt all the time because I’m so use to being around my children. I’ve been a stay at home mom for 7 years straight but you definitely need me time. These are great tips to help them moments when you want to run back into the chaos

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      stilljamieblog
      September 11, 2018 at 3:50 pm

      You definitely deserve it, I’ve never been a SAHM but I can only imagine the dire need to get some solace when you’re constant around your children. Glad you liked the post 🙂

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    Mom in the Six
    September 10, 2018 at 6:44 pm

    Great reminders that we are doing our best and to stop chasing perfection. Your Realize advice resonated the most with me. Thank you!

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      stilljamieblog
      September 11, 2018 at 3:48 pm

      Thank you for reading! We definitely have to be easier on ourselves. Good vibes to you mama 🙂

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    Kesi
    September 11, 2018 at 11:50 am

    This so good! Mom guilt is so real, but we deserve to enjoy our time too. As long as we are present and connected with our children and they know they are loved!

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      stilljamieblog
      September 11, 2018 at 4:02 pm

      Exactly! Quality over quantity. I think it’s healthy for both the children and parents to be apart from each other.

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    Alexis H.
    September 11, 2018 at 5:29 pm

    Mom Guilt is the worst! You are a great mama, I enjoyed this so much because its 100% true! But remember as long as we have guilt we know that we care on many levels, the moment you stop feeling guilt is when you know you no longer care about what your suppose to! It’s like pain when you feel pain you know your alive but when you don’t feel pain something is truly wrong!

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      stilljamieblog
      September 14, 2018 at 10:40 am

      I don’t necessarily agree that guilt is associated with level of care but I definitely can see your point. As long as your babies feel loved all the time, that’s what matters. Thanks for commenting!

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